貓的咖啡色

I heard something terrible this afternoon.
One of my friends' boyfirend had sex with another girl.
He broke her heart because he said he just want to fuck another girl. And that's it.
They may break up this time, but this may not be the only reason.
They often had fights.
I can't say who is right and who is wrong, but it reminds something that I read yesterday.


"When someone sees the same people every day, as had happened with him with the seminary,
they wind up becoming a part of that person's life.
And then they want the person to change.
If someone isn't what others want them to be, the others become angry.
Everyone seems to have a clear idea of how other people should lead their lives,
but none about his or her own."
-----The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho, page 17-18-----


It also reminds me another sentence in the other book.


"It hurt when I lost each of then various men I fell in love with.
Now, though, I am cinvienced that no one loses anyone, because no one owns anyone.
That is the true experience of freedom:
having the most important thing in the world without owning it."

"Love is not been found in someone else, but in ourselves; we simply awaken it."

-----Eleven Minutes by Paulo Coelho, page 97 & 126-----


Here I am not going to do the teaching.
These words seem very paradoxically, yet it makes sense.
I think this not only happens in love. It also happens in our real lives.

Well...this is something interesting, right?
And that's what makes human beings so complicated.